On reflection, when we are children and even well into our teens we’re encouraging growth, the achievement of milestones; old enough to leave school and education, for sex, to smoke, to drink, to gamble, to turn 21. But once you reach 21, there seems no more achieving, except of our own making. Only getting older. The next milestone of course is the turning of a whole decade older- and when put that way, it’s quite terrifying.
Though as I’ve just celebrated my 30th birthday, I can say wholeheartedly that it’s no big deal. It’s obviously no different to who or how old, mentally, you were the day before. But there does seem to be this big hype around this birthday; arguably any considered ‘big’ birthday. As one individual, I obviously can’t explain why. However, I can relay my own, personal experiences in how turning 30, is really quite inconsequential.
I see myself as a doer- by this I mean I benchmark my birthday as a point to reflect on my years achievements. By doing this, I feel that, year on year, I achieve an awful lot and makes getting older seem trivial. Some years there may only be one or two things on the list, something seemingly insignificant vs. life changing. It might be something like attending an event, support a cause, make a donation, book a holiday to a new destination, pay off debt, learn something new. Whatever it is, I reflect back on what I’ve done, seen and achieved over the year and it feels pretty incredible. If you’re like me and run a bucket list, it makes for achieving those moments a lot easier too. Obviously it’s never possible to achieve all you want to in a lifetime in one year, even for those that don’t work and have the cash to do so, but it helps you look at the overall picture of what you want to do in life and break it into achievable chunks throughout our lifetimes. The list is never rigid either and I always seem to do, go and see more than I plan to. What’s more, the opportunity to achieve something else you want to do may come along which may require you to bump something else off the list. It doesn’t mean all is lost, rather, just push it back a little and grasp that opportunity with open arms. The reflection part is most the most crucial aspect to this process; it helps me take the bad with the good, grateful for my lot, and I feel like I am really living.
Some of the things I feel I’ve achieved/got to do over the last year; started my own online lifestyle magazine (launched October), went to Las Vegas and Phoenix and went to the Grand Canyon and on a helicopter (a bucket list), saw a show in the West End of London (bucket list), watched an Audrey Hepburn movie (bucket list- how it took me 29 years I’ll never know), went to an Ice Bar (bucket list), been to Norway and the Fjords, watched Disney on Ice, saw an Eclipse, went to Vogue Festival, visited West Wycombe park and so much more in between.
When I look back at these accomplishments, the photos from events and memories of what I’ve done this year, it feels pretty good. As I’ve been doing this for several years now, when I look back over the years it’s all rather fulfilling and really makes getting older quite insignificant.
My list this coming year is perhaps the most mature it’s been but pretty sure there will be plenty of fun along the way; move to a bigger house, go to New York (which has a number of added events such as seeing a broadway show and the NY Yankees), pay off debt (was a last year event but had to be pushed back a little), see a meteor shower (one for tonight and one of our recommendations for things to do this summer), sort out my pension plan (it’s not the best currently) and attend a cocktail making class.
Do you see turning 30 as a big deal? Or is it a load of hype over nothing?