You’ve been unhappy with your job role for a while now and you’re thinking of telling your boss. You’ve received a job offer at another company but still aren’t 100% sure about what you should do. Should you stay and try work things out, or should you go somewhere that might offer you a better position? We sat down with Helen Taylor, Head of HR at Instant Offices about the best ways to address this problem.
It’s all about your attitude
If you come into the office, guns blazing, threatening to leave if your demands are not met, there’s a pretty high likelihood that your boss or HR manager will tell you to take a hike and go enjoy your new job, wherever it may be.
However, if you approach your manager sincerely and explain your situation, chances are they would be happy to help, especially if you are a valuable asset to the team. Saying to your manager ‘look, I haven’t been very happy in my current position, I’ve been offered another role, and I really don’t want to leave, but these are the things I have an issue with’ is an approach that is far more likely to get you the results you are looking for.
Steps to telling your boss
- Depending on your company culture, organise either a formal or informal meeting with your line manager to discuss the fact that you’ve received another job opportunity. Some people feel better in a boardroom setting while others would prefer to grab a cup of coffee to chat things over. Unless you have already made up your mind that you are leaving, don’t put anything on paper just yet.
- Once in your meeting, outline how it is you got to the point of looking for another job in the first place. Explain to your manager what your issues are in the job that you have, whether you’re not enjoying the amount of admin work you’re being made to do, or don’t feel like you’re being paid enough for what you contribute. This will allow your boss to better understand where you are coming from and that it’s not lack of loyalty that’s causing you to think about jumping ship. As tempting as it may be to turn this into a rant, try to stay as level headed as possible when talking about your issues.
- Once you have discussed the problems that you are facing in your job, it’s time to come up with solutions. If you really want to stay at the company, make sure to voice that. If you are a valuable employee, chances are they will try to find ways of addressing your issues. Come prepared with ways in which you think your job could work better for you, the responsibility is not all on your boss to come up with a way to make you stay. If they feel like you are making a proactive and collaborative effort, they will be more inclined to help. From here, you have opened up a conversation and can work through your issues and address them together.
Why it’s a good thing
There are only two ways this story could end. The first is that you manage to come to a compromise with your boss that addresses your issues, resulting in a happier work life. The second is that you leave a job that you aren’t happy in and move onto greener pastures.
The important thing to keep in mind is what you want to actually achieve from telling your boss – whether you actually want to leave the company or whether you want to stay but just have unresolved issues. By talking genuinely to your manager about your concerns, these can be addressed.
Bringing these issues up not only helps you, but it helps your company too. Sometimes businesses fail to recognise that someone is unhappy in their position, this can be especially true in large corporations where a manager may be in charge of a large group of people. If they don’t want to lose you, it gives them the opportunity to see how you really feel and rectify the situation. It opens up the door to conversation and helps the business learn so these situations can be avoided in the future.
Confronting your manager can be a daunting task for most, but quitting without talking about your issues may result in you leaving a job for reasons that could have been easily fixed. At the end of the day, your boss wants you to be happy as much as you do, so give them a chance. All you have to do is know what you want, be brave, be sincere and start a conversation.