In my last piece I wrote about the struggles of trying to make new friends and keep the ones we already have in the midst of a busy technology age. But what’s the need in those pointers, if you can’t find it in you to trust the people around you? Additionally, when meeting new people they can be quite guarded because they have concerns of trust.
Trust is a difficult thing for anybody, but especially for those who have been scorned – and to be honest, who hasn’t been? As soon as a boyfriend or girlfriend strays with another it’s easy to assume any future partner would do the same. When a friend goes behind your back it’s hard to believe others won’t do so too. But it’s important for your own happiness and for any future relationships, that you learn to put betrayal behind you and build trust with people in your life.
We share our tips to help you develop the trust element in relationships. Offering you suggestions and tips from both perspectives to help build health and happy relationships with others.
Don’t rush things
There is no reason for you to share your life history or inner most secrets to new friends as soon as you meet them, and no one expects you to. There’s no harm holding back for the first few months. Fill your conversation with getting to know each other’s everyday lives, what you do for a living, your hobbies and interests. But if you’re not sure you can trust them yet, don’t share anything you don’t want them to know.
Be attentive, listen and ask questions
Pay attention to how they show trust towards you
It’s easier to trust someone who is showing that they trust in you. Look for signs that is starting to happen and it will help you understand when and how much you can trust them in return.
A friend sharing something with you or asking for your help is something that should be treated as delicately as a flower
Show people they can trust you
The best way to get people to be loyal and trustworthy to you is to be trustworthy to them. Be honest, help them when they need you, and soon you will get the same in return. If somebody knows they can confide in you, they are more willing to be good to you.
Be there through the bad times and good
Related reads: Learning to trust in a new relationship
Make time to put effort into your relationships
If a new friend or partner can see that you put in time with those you are already close with, they are more likely to trust that they can count on you. So don’t prove them wrong.
It’s about being there for each other
Always ensure your actions match your words
There is no use giving somebody your word that you will help them through a tough time or with a difficult path if you have no intention of doing so. Not only will it diminish any chance of trust between you, but it could actually lead to making matters worse for your new friend and cause some upset that I’m sure you wouldn’t want to do.
Should always follow through on your promises
Always remember when building trust with people, whether it’s someone new or the need to rebuild, it is vital that you are always open and honest about your feelings. There is no use feeling unhappy with something that they have done or how they have handled something between the two of you, because that will only lead to them feeling as though you’ve kept things from them. How are they supposed to trust you’re always going to be honest with them, if you’re not?
You may also like...
Learn to say no We always want to be seen to be doing all we can for other people, especially when it comes to family and close friends, but if you're […]
7 Ways To Be More Independent The feeling of independence can work wonders on your self-worth, wellbeing and confidence as it can help to improve relationships. We show you how. 
The difference between self-esteem and self-confidence… ....and some ideas on how to build on your self-esteem.
Although self-esteem and self confidence are often associated with one another, […]
9 Tips to Make Your CV Stand Out Only 20% of applicants are invited to an interview. That's why it's so important that your CV stands out. We share our tips so your CV […]
